You know that it is okay as a parent to chase our dreams as well. We have ambitions, desires, ideas of our own, and we are not bad people for wanting to follow them. I am not suggesting that we all run out and chase a Journey cover band all over the place. Dreams should make some sense to us, like this blog, I have been dreaming of writing since I was a little girl. As my Welcome page says, I am not the best at grammar, but as a friend recently told me, neither are some of the foremost writers in the world. So, I will take that this will be okay….even with my brand of grammar.
The one thing I wish I had told my younger self about dreaming?
Besides a few men to side step in my future, and that a plan is only good until it is not, and to always save money not spend it… was to find the thing that you love the most in the world and find a way to make a living doing it. That is not to say that I do not love my career or my job that I have now. I do love what I do, but I love being creative, being a mom, writing, working with finances, planners, and family more than that. As it should be.
Chasing our dreams does not mean that we are putting the kids to the side, it simply means that we are making our dreams happen so that we are happy. Happy parent, happy family. Building your own dreams, will show our children how to be dreamers as well.
Dreams are designed to push us to reach for the places that we never thought we could go, that is why they are called dreams. I believe in all of my heart and soul if we want something bad enough we will get it. We will find a way to make our dreams a reality. As a Disney movie once said, “Dreams are wishes your heart makes.” As my fellow blogger noted in her post titled “Do It Now. Worry Later” on her site https://littlemisadvencha.com/categories/personal/do-it-now-worry-later/ doing something is a mater of the mind. She also says to never let the “degree of stress shy your confidences away.” Words to live by!
How to find your dream…
- Make lists of things that you are good at, or you enjoy
- Find out if you can make money doing those things
- Find out what it takes to do those things
- Believe that you can– remove fear from your life
- Create a vision board or a outline of what your dream will look like
- Get support of your friends, and family
- Now, DO IT!
My dream at the moment is to make this blog everything that it can be, to reach for the dream, to make it happen for myself, for Olivia and for my family. There are billions of people on this planet, if you have a dream follow it, if you want to sell your dream there is someone that will buy it. I feel like most people do not figure out their dream until they are in their 30’s or 40’s because maybe we do not know who we are until now, or we have done what society expects of us all these years.
If you fight for your dreams, your dreams will fight for you! -Les Brown
Les Brown is hands down one of my favorite motivational speakers of our time, he will make you want to pull your car over, and start your dream right there on the side of the road. He is that powerful! Find him and listen to him… his story is amazing. He would not take no for an answer and found that point where opportunity met preperation-and he took the moment.
He said that “too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fears.” That is too true in our society today, we live in a world that we are afraid of what if’s… What if people do not like my blog? What if someone makes fun of me to my face for putting everything out there? What if I make errors and people who do not like me see them? What if I fail?
And…. what if we turn the tables on this thinking and said, what happens if no one cares that I makes errors, because a blog is suppose to be a conversation? What if someone really likes my blog and sees potential in my writing and wants me to guest spot? What if I make a little money, just enough to build that workshop I have always wanted? Or more importantly, what if what I write actually speaks to people and helps one person change their thought process? Now what?
The ways we think internally determine who we are on the outside, how we dream, how we participate in life. No one said it would be easy, no one said we could turn off that little voice that yells at the top of her lungs “NO ONE cares what you have to say, Amber!” “No one reads your blog but your mom, and the people who don’t like you so they can make fun of you!” Haha… jokes on you because I am coming for EVERYTHING that little voice said I could not have! Les Brown said it better when he said “I am coming for everything they said I could not have,”
What would you do if you could not fail at it?
Think about that… if you could not fail. If you were Will Smith in The Pursuit of Happiness, and everything had been taken from you, except your fear of failure. Turn that voice off in your head, dream big, bigger than you ever have before. Learn what you need to learn, there are resources, and for the first time in a lifetime, you have tomorrow to start your dream! We have all the information in the world at our fingertips to learn anything we want to at any time of day or night. Go look up your dream, there is someone else out there that has already googled it to I bet you… we are not alone, we are a world of dreamers living in fear of our own success.
Chasing your dreams is like when people say they will start their diet on Monday, no, put that french fry down now, and start right this minute! Start now….and GO!
P.S. This blog post was only suppose to be the quote above with the ballerina because I made it myself on canva tonight. haha… funny thing about inspiration, it can come from anywhere. Live your dream, instead of working to build someone else’s.
Much love & respect,